This list usually includes the elimination of liars, cheaters, manipulators, drug users, etc.
These things should go without saying; no one wants to date people like this!
After my divorce, I spent five years online dating.
In the process, I learned how to avoid dates with relationship issues.
I call them "big red flags." If you are casually dating, these flags may not matter to you.
If you want a relationship, however, you should weed out people with traits that are detrimental to long term success. List Makers: These people list everything they don't want in a date on their online dating profiles, or verbalize that list on an actual date.
Rudeness Incarnate: If someone is rude to others in front of you after barely knowing you, imagine how you will be treated later. Three women asked if he minded moving over so they could sit together. "Yes, actually, I do mind." I quickly moved to the seat on the other side of him. People Who Share Too Much Too Fast: These people seem to want a relationship, and you fit the bill. Attention is great; too much attention too quickly is not great. Pouters: Profile pictures should always be current and honest depictions.
As my good friend likes to say, "I know you are the greatest, but no one can know that about you in five minutes." If someone talks about long-term plans, coordinates trips or calls/texts multiple times a day when you are in the "let's see if we like each other enough for another date" phase, cut the cord.5. Those who want to know how you can meet their needs are also self-absorbed. People should have at least one profile photo with a smile.
Selfish People: These people fall into two categories: those who ask no questions about you and those who immediately want to know what you can do for them. One guy I talked to on the phone asked me if I wore pantyhose. Secret Spillers: People who feel the need to share intimate details of their lives before getting to know you are seeking drama or attention. People Who Spout Technicalities: If someone starts a phrase with "technically," yell, "liar, liar, pants on fire! "Technically" indicates the beginning of a lie, however small. Horn Tooters: Those who feel the need to toot their own horns are probably tooting it because no one else will. That way, you can see if all teeth are present and accounted for.
Those who ask no questions are actually showing no interest in you. When I responded in the negative, he asked if I would be willing to wear them for him. Secrets should be earned by the evolution of a friendship. E-mailers: When online dating, those who email or text endlessly without making plans to meet usually have a reason for this behavior. One person I talked to had a profile that indicated he had a college education. Technically, I didn't finish school yet." This is a lie. After multiple dates with men missing teeth, smiling photos are a must.
In my experience, they are usually married or in a relationship and are playing a game. It doesn't necessarily matter whether he has a degree or not, but he lied.
How many red flags do you need in order to run away and save yourself? Time will tell, his mask will drop, that is why he is pushing for commitment, he wants to hook you before you see the real person under the facade.
By themselves they don’t scream “Run for cover” , especially if you have no experience with a narcissist, but if you have half a dozen of these red flags you need to run away as fast as you can and if you can’t bring yourself to dump him because you think he is an exception to the rule and you don’t believe me; at least slow things down.