Give yourself plenty of time to get to know them thoroughly.Keep in mind —and this is very important —that dating is inconsistent with remarried life.
Don’t be fooled into thinking you won’t experience difficulties.
As one parent said, “Falling in love is not enough when it comes to remarriage; there’s just more required than that.”When you do become serious about marriage, date with the intention of deepening the stepparent-stepchild relationships.
Young children can attach themselves to a future stepparent rather quickly so make sure you’re serious before spending lots of time together.
She wasn’t implying that remarriage is wrong, but was simply suggesting that remarriage-particularly when children are involved —is very challenging and that couples should count the cost and be highly educated about the process before getting married.
Eyes Wide Open The following list represents key “costs” and “challenges” every single-parent (or those dating a single-parent) should know before deciding to remarry.
Open wide both your eyes now and you —and your children —will be grateful later.1.
Wait 2-3 years following divorce or the death of your spouse before seriously dating. Most people need a few years to fully heal from a ending of a previous relationship.
Moving into new relationships short-circuits the healing process, so do yourself a favor and grieve the pain, don’t run from it.
In addition, your children will need at least this much time to heal and find stability in their visitation schedule. Date two years before deciding to marry; then date their children before the wedding.
Dating two years gives you time to really get to know one another.
Too many relationships are formed on the rebound when both persons lack godly discernment about their fit with a new person.