With each child comes hundreds of preoccupations and worries that will steal their attention and ability to spend as much time with you as you or they might like.
Where you may be wanting two or three nights a week, they may at best be able to give you one.
Trust me, they could use a home away from home for the evening.
Next, know that they may not be as available as you want them to be.
Most single men have only two things to worry about. Single fathers have an infinite list of things to worry about.
They may have some ketchup or other undistinguishable stains on their sleeves that they didn’t notice. This is totally normal and something you will eventually find to be very sexy. Raise their kids, and maintain a home, and support their families. Trust me, they don’t want to be and they did their best not to be, but there is just not *quite* enough time in any day to get it all done.
Sometimes, it is everything they can do to get out the door to come see you in the first place. Next, you should know that they will probably not want to take you back to their place for quite some time. 1) they really don’t want their kids meeting any new person in their life until they are sure it is going to last a long while.
And 2) even if their kids aren’t there, they know that at any given time it looks like an A-bomb went off in their house.
And because first impressions are everything, and because their time is limited, they will want to wait until you won’t be scared right out the door.
If he starts telling you about the bicycle technique that works wonders for child constipation, trust me… Next, you should know that single dads may show up not completely groomed. Their facial hair may be longer or thicker or less-shaven than they usually like.
During that time, you’ll hear all about his kids’ sports, his kids’ accomplishments, his kids’ science projects, and possibly even his kids’ most recent pooping problems.
Consider this a “how to date a single dad” advice list. He’ll eventually realize he’s doing it and the conversation will then become first date appropriate.
But if you have your eye on one, there are a few things you should know about them. First, you should know that he’s going to talk about his kids. I know, I know, the conversation should be greatly focused about you, him, and both of your awesomeness on a first date, but you have to understand that single dads live and breathe their kids and their kids’ happiness, so give him a minute or twenty to get it out of his system.